“Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:” James 1:19.

We’ve all engaged in conversations where we are really pushing to get our point across- however, in the interim honest communication gets lost and confusion takes place. It has been said that the reason God gave us two ears and one mouth is so that we can listen more and speak less! May God help us to follow the instructions given to us in His word found in James 1:19: “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:” James 1:19.

In the book entitled “Seven Habits of Effective People,” by Dr. Steven Covey, Habit number five states: Seek first to understand—Learn how to communicate empathically.  The thought being expressed is that change takes place on the inside first.

When we pray to really listen- the Holy Spirit will adjust the speed of both our listening and speaking; then we can slow down, seek to understand what the other person is trying to articulate without preconceived notions, responding in a meaningful, respectful way.

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. My friends, that doesn’t come from the ears or the mouth…but the heart! As dear children of God, we are to humbly value others above ourselves. “Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.” Philippians 2:3.

 Regardless to the conversation- people respect and value our opinions, expressions of comfort or guidance when it is sincerely from the heart-and yes, we all know the difference. It takes-stepping aside to self and trying to take a mental walk in someone else’s shoes for the moment. “Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others”. Philippians 2:4.

My friends, it’s not all about us…my heart’s desire is to be be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath, thinking twice, considering another person’s actions and speech, while always seeking to respond with kindness, respect, and brotherly love. “If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.” Romans 12:18.

And when we do that…we add just a little bit of peace, and compassion to someone’s walk along this journey of life-and we win as well, we learn how to really love (agape) just a little bit more! May God put a guard over our mouths, open our ears and above all our hearts to truly listen to someone today! We are admonished in Proverbs 2:2: “So that thou incline thine ear unto wisdom and apply thine heart to understanding.  Slow downand take time to listen with an open heart!

 God blessing and peace be with you all.